As a single parent creating memories with my kids is something that is extremely important to me. Until recently it used to cause me great anxiety, because I’m broke. Literally! I work two jobs (52 hours a week or more). What kind of memories can I create if I don’t have any money, or time? I remember growing up traveling to Florida to visit my grandparents, Disney World, going to the theme park in our city, sporting events and going to the movies. How can I create these type of memories with my kids on my budget and time constraints?
Then one day laying on the couch with my Peanut I realized we were making memories and it wasn’t costing me a dime. It was an ephifany and it changed my views on my interactions with my kids completely. I now see every moment as a chance to bond.
You can create bonding moments and memories in any situation. Think back to your childhood some of the best memories aren’t because of the cost of the event, but the way you felt at the time. Something as simple as cooking, washing clothes, swimming, fishing or laying on the couch talking can create a lifetime of memories.
Here are some of things my kids and I do to create memories:
- Reading- My daughter loves to read, my son not so much, however if you buy a book written my Anna Dewdney called “Llama Llama mad at mama” it seems to spark his interest. We also downloaded some great are apps with wonderful books. Reading to them or letting them read to me it sparks conversation and creates memory.
- Spa Night- Spa night I enjoy tremendously. It’s a chance for us to bond while looking crazy in a mud mask, soaking our feet, doing hair and talking about whatever our hearts desire. Even my son enjoys soaking his feet and picking at his sisters mud mask.
- Fishing- I hate fishing!! With a passion! The bugs, the fish, the worms, tangled lines, just everything! My son loves it. He has developed his dads love of the sport, so since its free I try to take him sometimes. The fact I don’t like it and it’s always a disaster is probably what makes for the best memory. The stories they will tell when I’m gone about the cursing and mess I make will make for a great laugh.
- Cooking Dinner- I never looked at dinner or any meal as a bonding moment. It’s just something that has to be done. I would like for my children to know how to cook so I let them help every now and then. The other day DJ asked me if he could cook the sweet chicken again because that was fun, and it dawned on me I’ve made memories. Just doing everyday things I’ve created a lasting memory. The chicken was delicious too.
- Household chores- Random daily tasks have often wound up being some of our greatest bonding moments. Washing clothes, making the laundry soap, loading the dishwasher or cleaning up. Turn on some music and dance your way through the household chores. Club YouTube has always been my favorite way to laugh make a fool of myself while creating memories with my babies.
Creating memories on a budget is easier than I thought. Although I would like to be able to take my kids on a trip every year or buy those season passes, being a single mom with no financial help it’s hard. So I’m thankful for the times we do get to go somewhere fun but I’m blessed to have the everyday moments that seem minuscule but will be the memories my children carry for a life time.